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    How to deal with a boss you hate

    What do you do when the person in charge is the one you can't stand the most?

    Last month, you may have read an article called, “How to manage an employee you hate.” Some readers wrote in saying, “I have a boss I can’t stand. Why do I do about that?” You are absolutely right. Here is a voice for those who cannot, for political reasons, speak up.

    Let me tell you about one of my nightmare bosses. Let’s call her Corina. She was a piece of work. From my first interview, I could tell she couldn’t stand me. She knew I was a family friend of the periodontist though, which apparently made me untouchable, and she really didn’t have a choice about hiring me. Corina was irate that she had to be my direct supervisor. She turned being nasty into an art form.

    I did what I could to win her over, but it wasn’t happening. There was nothing I could do to make her happy. She wanted me to quit but didn’t know how to make that happen. My co-workers would notice that she shot down every single brilliant idea I had to improve patient care. In her book, any idea I had must be horrible. (So much for feeling like I was a part of the team!)

    Related reading: How to manage the employee you hate

    It all culminated with a breakfast party we were throwing for a new peridontist who joined the practice. I offered to make my famous noodle kugel. No problem. The week before the breakfast, she started in on me.” Noodle kugel is overkill and completely unnecessary” I mean, really? She is going to shoot me down over that? It was laughable. But, on some deep psychological level, it hurt. Why couldn’t she be nice to me like she is to everyone else? That mystery will never be answered.

    Why am I writing about this? I hated her, plain and simple. This kind of experience grinds away at the self esteem of most employees. It grinds away at staff morale and makes for a hostile work environment. I tried very hard to win her over, but I couldn’t. She was always going after me. Have you ever felt this way with one of your bosses?

    What do you do when you have a boss you really hate?

    1. Do you look for another job and jump ship?

    2. Do you vent to other co-workers over and over again?

    3. Do you take out your pain and hurt feelings on your family?

    4. Do you lash out and do things to provoke your boss?

    5. Do you make a voodoo doll and stab her with pins? (Hey, you were thinking it. I just said it out loud.)

    Related reading: When is it time to exit a dental practice?

    Call me naïve, but what is wrong with so-called professionals who are just plain mean to their employees? Why do they think that humiliating someone in the office is acceptable behavior? Let’s call it what it really is: abuse.

    So, what can you do in the face of such abuse?

    Continue to page two to see what you should do...


    Lisa Newburger, LISW-S
    Lisa Newburger, a master's level social worker supervisor, helps audiences find humor in talking about tough topics. Her "in-your-face" ...


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